I am going to be much more mindful of what I choose to highlight now based on this article.
I will not ignore their “cuteness” but I will not allow it to take center stage over more enduring and relevant attributes.
In my book, Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World, I reveal that fifteen to eighteen percent of girls under twelve now wear mascara, eyeliner and lipstick regularly; eating disorders are up and self-esteem is down; and twenty-five percent of young American women would rather win America’s next top model than the Nobel Peace Prize. She currently lives in Los Angeles where she runs her law firm, The Bloom Firm.
Even bright, successful college women say they’d rather be hot than smart. The recently named Bloom one of the top five celebrity attorneys in Los Angeles. I think telling kids they picked a great outfit or have great taste is unisex. (This next part isn’t in direct reply to your comment…) I loved the article and think it makes a great point! There’s a world of difference between “You’re so cute!
For example, “This is Amelia and she loves drawing different animals and plants.” or “This is Nikita and she loves doing puzzles.” This would then prompt the person to delve deeper or provide a general comment about the particular interest, rather than appearance which is an easy default. It reinforces to our child(ren) that we recognize and honor their interest as well as encourages the adult (or kid for that matter) to engage them.